Being epiphaneous (no such word, I know. I just wanna be a smart-ass)

I'm back from a wonderful holiday in Singapore and my hometown Jakarta. I didn't get to do everything I wanted to do and didn't get to see all the people I wanted to see, but that's fine.

Somehow lately I had the epiphany about friendship. Maybe it's got something to do with the way holidays clear your head and all that giving your mind, body and soul a break shit-ass crap. But whatever. I feel like I should remind myself about these things so I can hopefully be a better person from this point on.

o Being open-minded about your friends is the best thing that anyone can do. You can't mould other people into the way you want them to be. Knowing the difference between telling them off when they're wrong and when they're plainly different than you want them to be is hard. But just by listening to the other side of the story and be fair is, I think, a good start.

o Going on holidays and getting away from your friends is actually necessary. Having other groups of friends helps too but actually not seeing them for a period of time is good. But yeah, of course if someone needs you, you're gonna be there.

o Drawing the line on friends that take advantage of you. Don't make too much effort when all they do is ask you for favours. Don't repeat that mistake more than twice. Or in my case, after the 15th time or something.

o Good: Making new friends for the sake of making new friends. Bad: getting bogged down with the 'hey, that guy is cute, I should start a conversation with him so I can make out with him by the end of the night' attitude. It'll only stress you out and end up not making that first move.

Okay, maybe that last part is more like a dating tip. Not that I'm eligible for giving out dating tips. But I guess I had that figured out just now. Pfft.